What can we learn today
WHAT DO YOU NEED TO MAKE SURE BEFORE TAKING PART IN A SEXUAL ACTIVITY WITH SOMEONE?
- Make sure the other person is participating freely and readily.
- Someone under the influence of drugs or alcohol is not fit mentally for giving consent. This should be considered a “NO”, irrespective of what they say. Wait until they are sober.
- Someone who is asleep or unconscious is not capable of sexual activities or understanding the consequences, and therefore has not given consent.
- Other things can also affect a person’s capacity to give consent. Examples include mental health problems, learning disability or a head injury. Having capacity means the person can make and communicate a decision, understanding the consequences and knowing they have a choice.
- Your partner has the right to withdraw consent at any time. Once the consent is withdrawn you must stop engaging in sexual activity with that person.
HOW TO ASK FOR CONSENT?
- The person initiating the sexual activity is responsible for getting the consent.
- Make sure your partner is not unconscious, asleep, drunk or under the influence of drugs and is capable of giving consent. Do not engage in any sexual activity if they are too drunk, unconscious, asleep or are unable to give consent.
- The simplest way to get consent is to ask. Notice if your partner is eager from their body language and facial expression.
- If you are not sure if they are saying yes, it is a “NO”.
- Only a clear affirmative freely-given “yes” indicates consent. Keeping quiet does not equate to giving consent.